Beberapa perkara yg kita kena faham ttg depression and suicidal,
Orang yg commit suicide sebab clinical depression ; tak mintak utk mati secara suicide . Tapi diorang mati disebabkan penyakit.

Depression ni enn dia berpunca daripada chemical imbalance dalam otak kita
Sesetengah pesakit (sebab aku tak pasti if its true for all types of depression or they have different condition for different types, so aku sebutkan sesetengah in general okey ) adalah sensitif kepada changes in serotonin level. Di mana serotonin ialah hormone yg dirembeskan kerana gembira.
Bila ada perkara yg menggembirakan hypothalamus akan trigger rembesan hormon serotonin dan kita akan rasa gembira. Jadi lepas kita rasa gembira, jumlah hormon yg terembes akan mula menurun, dan badan pesakit yg sensitif dengan this changes akan overreact and terus signal sebagai sekarang ni waktu sedih
Jadi bila kita dengar semalam orang tu happy je tetiba hari ni kita dengar berita dia bunuh diri. Kegembiraan dia yg semalam tu bukan kepura2an. Tapi real. Cuma bila perasaan gembira tu hilang, dia terus rasa sedih yg melampau; disebabkan oleh ketidakseimbangan hormon yg berlaku dalam otak dia.
Aku rephrase : THEIR HAPPINESS IS REAL. Jadi jangan salahkan diri if sesorang yg korang kenal jadi macam ni. Jangan sedih kata "kenapalah aku tak sedar yg dia ada masalah, kenapa lah aku tak sedar yg dia sebenarnya tengah sedih.. "
No. That happiness when they were with you is genuine. Its not fake. Its real.
Cuma the after effect, sebab dia sakit dia jadi lain daripada org biasa. Orang biasa lepas happy akan kembali neutral. Tetapi tidak bagi pesakit depression.
Mereka perlu kan therapy, medicine ,and medical attention.

Another condition for depression is bila otak memang gagal utk merembes hormon gembira.
This one yg kita akan nampak orang tu sentiasa murung
Yg even kita cuba gembirakan dia, even suasana tengah gembira, they cant feel it.
Sebab kegagalan dalam otak diorang utk respon kepada signal gembira.
Dont tell them, kau ni mengada, kau ni lembik, tak leh lawan skit perasaan tu.
Kau kata skit?
Beb, kau fikir dia nak ke takde perasaan macam tu? Orang lain sume gembira dan dia tahu dia pun xde sebab utk bersedih tapi dia just, cant feel other than depressed.
Memang dia gagal utk lawan dengan sendirinya.
Dia juga perlukan medical attention, therapy and ubat utk pulih.
Macam insulin laa. Bila orang tu hyperglycemic boleh ke dia suruh pancreas dia rembeskan insulin macamtu je? Tak enn, dia perlukan ubat jugak. Dia tak boleh kawal benda tu.
Same with depression. Its not a condition that we can control, its an illness.
And an illness can be managed.

Another thing yg korang kena faham ialah one cannot fight depression alone.
Sebab sidekick kepada depression ialah loneliness. And anxiety. And beberapa negative feelings yg lain.
Depression need support from orang sekeliling, sama macam orang patah kaki perlukan support utk ke tandas. Sama macam orang demam perlu dipapah utk pergi mandi.
Jadi jangan percaya 100% kalau seseorang tu depressed and dia kata dia just need time to be alone.
Dont
Dont leave them be.
But leave them somewhere you can always keep your eyes on.
Always always check on how theyre doing.
Sebab yg paling teruk bila depressed ialah self harm.
Perasaan depressed tu kadang melumpuhkan, numbing. And theres this survival instinct yg akan paksa kata kay diorang  if you can feel the pain, youre still alive.
Tapi, shit can happen. They could bleed to death and die on the spot. They could hurt their vital organ.
Worst, if instinct tu kata if you cant feel anything youre better off dead.
Thats a dangerous and harmful thoughts.

So to summarize
Depression can alternate with happiness, making it a facade to thinking that one is feeling better and healthy; even to the patient itself. (kadang2 orang macam ni akan berhenti makan ubat, sebab hmm siapa yg suka makan ubat? )
Depression sometimes has no signal. Suddenly one feel bad and feel like they are hopeless. (This is when they need help)
Depression need continual help and support. Never leave them by themselves, assuming theyre okay. Because they can be not okay at anytime. (but pls dont sympathize them, that will make things worse. any patient will hate to feel sympathetic. do empathize and help them with anything. better if you can consult to a dr on how to help the patient.)
Always take good care of the patient, if youre the patient take care of yourself, follow the prescription, the therapy and be in medical attention when things got worse; ie when the feeling is too much. Get help. Reach out.

I hope this information can reach as many people. And help more patient. And prevent more suicide incident.

Last but not least, a disclaimer, im not a medical practitioner and i just extract things i learnt from the net. You can make your own research by referring to any depression/suicide information web.
They will tell you the same thing; you cant fight depression alone.

Dengan ini saya memberi amaran kepada yg membaca auliaxfahmi, mohon fahami aulia dan jangan nangis sampai korang lak yg sakit. Aulia hanyalah imaginasi. Aulia bukan siapa2, apa yg terjadi kepada aulia mungkin simulasi kepada how you guys could help a suicidal friend. But aulia is not a living person jadi tak perlu worry much tentang dia. Lagipun dia ada fahmi so shell be alright
Ill make sure shell be alright. 😊

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